After my husband and I got back together, we discussed how we were going to be different and change things so we didn’t end up back where things went wrong. The first month or so were great, we were making more time for each other and letting one another know how much we loved and appreciated them.
But one piece was missing that wouldn’t allow this great new behavior to stick. I still wasn’t working on myself. I still found myself super anxious at times and unable to focus completely on my husband despite all of my efforts. After discussing this with my husband, I decided to go see a doctor about my anxiety. This resulted in me taking anxiety medication which worked and made me feel and be so much better! The only problem that remained, was that I did not want to rely on medication the rest of my life.
Sometime after my husband and I got back together, he began seeing a life coach. A life coach is someone who helps people with such things as career and personal challenges. My husband was having great results and I could see a change in him on a personal level and just with his attitude in general. So after six months of taking my anxiety medication, I had to make a decision, do I want to continue taking this medication, or do I think I can handle things on my own again? Enter life coach. My husband had such great results and thought it would benefit me so I decided to give it a whirl.
I continued to take the anxiety medication even though I began seeing this life coach, knowing it was a process and not an immediate fix. I met with her once a week and little by little she helped me get know me again; what I liked, what my interests were, what I was passionate about. She also helped me to build up my self-esteem that I didn’t even realize I lacked. In addition, I began making time to build up relationships in my life whether it was with my husband, friends, or family members. And here comes the biggest piece of all, I was able to stop taking my medication!
I continue to see my life coach to this day as does my husband. With her help, I have been able to change my perspective on life and am motivated again like I was all those years ago! I feel like this has done wonders for me and my marriage! Getting to know me again was such a huge part of being happy which was affecting my marriage directly.
Looking back, it is amazing how losing yourself can affect so many things in your life. And on the opposite end of that, how finding yourself overflows into all aspects of your life! I think my biggest take away from my journey is that everything is connected. When one thing is off it can affect so many other areas of your life that you wouldn’t even consider.
Well, that is it. My journey. My hope in sharing this is that it will be helpful no matter what stage of life you are in. Maybe it will prevent couples from falling into the routine of life. Or possibly provide hope to those that are currently having a difficult time knowing that it can be fixed and the best is yet to come!